Being a Mother


I’m not sure what’s going on with me, but I’ve been thinking a ton lately about being a mother. I mean, I’ve been a mom for 16 years now, and I have never been one to overthink it; I just do it. But, with Vincent turning 15 this past Sunday, for some reason I’ve been thinking about it a ton these days. Here’s the main thought that goes through my head: I only have three more years with Vincent under my roof. I have limited time wherein my reach might meet him. It’s not like I believe I can make him a certain way, but my time of influence with my son is definitely fleeting. I recently took a personality test. One of the questions focused on the character trait of intelligence verses kindness. I most definitely, strongly answered that I want my children to be kind over smart. I’ve always felt that. Now with three years to go, I’m bustlin’ my mommy buns to make sure I can raise a gentlemen. These have been my thoughts on being a mother lately. But there’s more….


Thinking about being a mother has always left me in thoughts about how I am being a daughter. I’m guilty of not being very good. I should write home more, call home more, reach out more. Over the weekend Kevin made a phone call home to his mom. First I thought, “Gosh, I hope my son calls home when he does move away.” Then, I was left with such guilt because I don’t call home very often. So being a mother has left me realizing I need to be a daughter–a good one. Ironically, yes it is Mother’s Day this weekend, but all these overly deep thoughts on mothering, they are being brought on by the two men in my life. My husband who is very dear to his mum all the time, and my son whom I hope very much takes after his father. And as for me, I need to do better and reach out to my mom–Mother’s Day or not!!


These pictures were taken during our spring break trip to Bohol, Philippines, and there’s really no correlation between these pictures and my thoughts on being a mother. Yet, in the above picture, I especially feel like I look so much like my mom. It’s like I’m identical to her or something. And then lately, the way I interact with strangers, wanting to know more about them and reaching out to make connections with people, I’m reminded again of my mother. She’s just like that making friends with the cashier at the super market or the seat neighbor on a plane. I’m a lot like my mom–both in looks and demeanor. It’s time I embrace these similarities and take pride in them especially since I admire my mom—A LOT!


(By the way…. since I attempt to fashiong blog over here on Kremb de la Kremb, I’ll offer some details on what I’m wearing. This $15 dress was perfect for sunsets on the beach. I highly recommend it because for the price, it’s a real winner–plus wearing white after a day in the sun is always a complimentary look. I was quite happy with this lippy (Cannes lip matte by NYX) that I brought–again it was the perfect shade for after a day in the sun. Finally, my earrings were a total score in one of my favorite shops in the New Delhi airport. I went back to get them because I couldn’t stop thinking about them. They remind me of something Kelly Framel, The Glamourai, would wear, and she’s just the coolest of all cool. And finally, because all the best flip flops are found in beach markets, the pair I’m wearing were picked up in Bohol’s little beach town. There’s my style update for this memorable sunset night!)

*This post has been linked up to Not Dressed As Lamb’s #iwillwearwhatilike.

9th Links á la Mode

This is the 9th time I’ve made Links á la Mode! And the second time they chose my picture as the features; there’s my mom from my “Going Grey” article. I told her she’s famous (not really) in an anonymous way!links a la mods

Fashion Shades of Grey

Fashion month has come and gone. What have we learned? IFB bloggers found celebrations of motherhood, diversity, and technology, as well as fear of empty spaces (!) on the runway. OK maybe that last one’s not a celebration, but interesting nonetheless. We also celebrated our amazing mothers, color trends for spring, wedding inspiration, and more. Peruse the best of the week below!

Links à la Mode: March 5

  1. A Handful of Stories: The Definitive Guide to Spring ’15 Color Trends
  2. Al-Balsam Life: Dolce & Gabbana Celebrates Motherhood
  3. A Sparkle Factor: How to Dress Like House of Cards’ Carrie Underwood
  4. Attire Club: Men and the Color Pink: a Cultural History
  5. Cat Eyes + Skinny Jeans: Spring Break Beauty Survival Guide
  6. Happy. Pretty. Sweet: Inspired by: Downton Abbey Weddings
  7. Kremb de la Kremb: Going Grey
  8. Modavracha’s Spot: The Benefits of Using Engageya Widgets
  9. Ms. Fabulous: Badass Models on the FTL Moda Runway
  10. Omnia Vitae: 12 Staples Every Girl Should Own
  11. Purushu Arie: A Technologic Upgrade in Fashion
  12. Save. Spend. Splurge: How to Know if a Chanel Tweed Suit Is Real
  13. State of Cate: 5 Classic Novels You Must Read
  14. Storybook Apothecary: Horrible Films I Loved as a Kid
  15. Style Destino: 5 Vegan Lipstick Must-Haves
  16. Stylist Diva: 12 Things Morning Habits for Successful At-Home Entrepreneurs
  17. Style Inked: The Art of Block Printing
  18. That Paki Blog: How VFiles Is Changing Fashion
  19. We Are Ready Made: Horror Vacui
  20. The Fashion Junki: How to Get Rid of Winter Blues
  21. *Stay tuned later. Today is a double post day with my Style Story coming shortly.

Call Me Joanie

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Here’s my mom, Joanie! She has amazing style: I’d like to attribute my love of clothing and fashion to her. She’d always get me to wear the zaniest get ups like the time I wore black bermudas with a button down and tie with loafer and knee highs. Admittedly I was a bit of her guinea pig, and I’d do whatever she said, but as a result I love fashion, trends, clothes, and shopping. I do try things sartorially: I’m usually colorful and full of patterns or textures, I’ll try the newest trends just to see if they work on me, and I am a very eclectic dresser. I think all of this is because of my mom. Oh, the days she’d come home with a bag full of new clothes from K-Mart or Lamonts! Granted they were not name brands, but I didn’t care. They were always bold and fresh and a little funky–just for me. Thanks Mom for influencing me so much!

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*My mom is such a good sport. She had just taken these shots of me and then embraced a turn for herself. She saw the phone booth and went to it. While I have an artist in residence, I’m going to take advantage of her eye and get some more outfit pics in. She’s right up there with Gigi when it comes to taking my photos!

Mom’s totally pooped here!  Bangkok shopping baby!  Here she is in the famous MBK mall.

https://www.krembdelakremb.com/moms-totally-pooped-here-bangkok-shopping/

I am scared stiff here!  The ferry boat over terrified me, so the next time we went out on a boat, I made sure to wear a life jacket.  I was holding on here making myself secure!  (The kids also wore jackets—but the other adults would not!)

https://www.krembdelakremb.com/i-am-scared-stiff-here-the-ferry-boat-over/

Kissy kissy!

https://www.krembdelakremb.com/kissy-kissy-2/